CM206: Interpersonal Communication Questions for Response
Jan and Ken have been good friends for most of their lives, but because of what she said last week, Ken believes Jan has betrayed their friendship. Ken: Jan, we need to talk. Why did you tell Shannon about what happened between Katie and me? You know, [now] Shannon doesn’t want to talk to me. Jan: Ken, I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to tell her. I just kind of slipped out when we were talking. Ken: Sorry? Sorry is not enough. I told you that in private, and you promised that you would keep it just between you and me. Jan: Ken, I told her that long before the two of you even started dating. You know, Shannon and I, we have been friends for a long time. We were just talking about guys and cheating and stuff; it wasn’t you specifically. Ken: Wasn’t about me? It was totally about me. You had no right to tell anyone that under any circumstance. Now Shannon doesn’t trust me. She thinks I’m a low-life who sleeps around. Jan: Well, I’m sorry, but the two of you weren’t even dating yet. Ken: That’s irrelevant. It would be irrelevant even if Shannon and I weren’t dating. The point is I thought I could trust you and I could tell you anything and it would go no further. Jan: Yeah? Like the time I told you I was thinking about dropping out of school one semester and you just happened to tell my Dad? Ken: Oh, that’s not the same thing. Jan: You know what? It’s exactly the same. I trusted you and you squealed. My Dad lit in to me big time. He never should have known I was thinking about that. I trusted you and you betrayed me.
Ken: Look, I was just trying to look out for you. I thought you were making a big mistake and I was just trying to stop you. And besides, you know I was right. Don’t change the subject here. Are you saying, that you telling Shannon, what is this, some sort of payback for me telling your Dad? Jan: No, I’m just trying to point out that you’ve got no right to throw stones. Ken: You know what? Then maybe neither one of us can trust the other. Maybe we shouldn’t tell each other anything that we don’t want broadcast to the world. Jan: Don’t be such a jerk. I’m sorry, ok? Ken: It’s not good enough. You ruined any chance I had with her.
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